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Create the best version of yourself
Konstantin Maramygin
This book was created for those who want to change themselves and their lives. Find their individual meaning of life and find their destiny. Use this book as a tool to adjust and “fix” your life. Reassemble yourself like a constructor and create the best version of yourself. Which will allow you to find the right path to achieve any goal you set for yourself.
Create the best version of yourself
Konstantin Maramygin
© Konstantin Maramygin, 2024
ISBN 978-5-0064-4193-4
Created with Ridero smart publishing system
Preface
Greetings to you, my dear readers. In this book I have tried to disclose as much as possible questions about self-realization and achieving goals. I did not do without searching for the meaning of life and your destiny. In order to really reach a new level of life and create a better version of yourself, you need to find the answers to all these questions.
After all, you must agree that the ability to achieve your goals does not guarantee that your life will be filled with meaning and you will find your destiny. Therefore, in my opinion, these things should be interconnected.
The fact is that, according to my observations, many people do not understand why they live and, most importantly, do not know what they want to be in this life. Many people have no goals and nothing to strive for. In fact, they live their lives for nothing. When talking to them, you realize that they would love to find the meaning of life, but they don’t understand how to find it. As a result, I decided to help them and all those who do not want to live their lives in vain.
You will ask me why I decided to do this?
The answer is simple. A person without a purpose in life, without understanding his destiny is a problem not only for the person himself, but also for the whole society. Since we all depend on each other, whether we want it or not. We are all, in fact, a part of one big organism. And our actions affect the whole organism. In other words, each person’s success depends on the success of other people.
And to make this idea even clearer, I will give an example. Imagine a human body, in which every cell has a certain role and function. Just like its organs. The heart is responsible for blood circulation, kidneys – for cleaning the body, eyes – for our vision, intestines – for digestion of food and saturation of blood with nutrients and so on. And thanks to this well-coordinated work, the human body exists.
Now let’s imagine that one kidney refused to do its role because it hesitated to do its job. And, looking at it, the liver refused to do its job. What would happen in such a case? Of course, such an organism will cease to exist.
We can also put it this way: a person who has not found himself in this life begins to poison people around him, blaming all others for his failures. He will try to assert himself only at the expense of convincing others of his rightness and his paradigm of world perception, while belittling the dignity and world order of another person. And as a result, destroys his life, making him a loser like him. And when such people become many, they unite and create their own reality, in which there is no order, justice and prosperity. Their element is chaos. Their mottos are: “life is shit”, “get the most out of life”, “live one day at a time” and so on and so forth. They popularize drugs, alcohol and promiscuity. They don’t want any family values. They cover themselves with slogans of freedom and democracy.
They are often used in dirty machinations and crimes. Politicians, large corporations, intelligence services, criminal organizations and other interested structures are happy to use such people. After all, it is not difficult to bribe a person who lives one day. They are willing to do anything to get funds for their immoral lifestyle. They are ready to commit crimes, organize a rally, commit an act of vandalism or terrorism, participate in revolutions to overthrow the government, the main thing is to be paid.
Living one day at a time, not valuing their lives and all those around them. They poison the lives of others by behaving defiantly, vulgarly, like a typical “bully”, showing their dislike and contrived superiority. They are like a virus, a disease that can become a cancerous tumor in society.
And to prevent this from happening, the task of the whole society is to help people who have not yet found themselves or have lost their way. We must help each other so that our organism can flourish and evolve.
I hope I have answered this question in an accessible manner.
And now let’s pay attention to the important questions that we will consider together with you: “What is the meaning of your life? What is your destiny? How to achieve any set goals? With the help of what can you become better?”
These are actually very important questions. To which every person must find an answer. And the earlier it happens, the more he can achieve in his life.
Frankly speaking, our life is just a small period of time.
Time that you and I do not appreciate as we should have.
So what do you do if you’re off track, confused and don’t understand what you need to do to get out of your predicament.
In my opinion, it requires a kind of tool to help fix you when you’re broken. Like we fix our car or the piping in the apartment. We need a kind of wrench to help us fix the breakage.
That’s why I decided to write this book, it will become this “wrench” with which you can fix yourself and your life. That’s its main mission.
So take this book as a tool that you can use in a difficult moment. And if necessary – to change your whole life. Change your worldview and understanding of life. Help you become more conscious and take control of your life. Avoid unnecessary mistakes and achieve the desired goals in life.
Therefore, I recommend that you take the material and methods in this book seriously, because the information from this book can have a global impact on your future life.
I will also ask you to take small notes while reading the book. Highlighting important theses and methods. So have a pen and paper ready.
Of course, you can read the book quickly without taking notes and without following the methods outlined in it. You will familiarize yourself with the material, perhaps you will memorize something and even try to apply in practice. But you must realize that the effectiveness of this will be very low.
I will repeat once again: this book is a tool. It is like a wrench that can lie in a toolbox for a long time. But when you need to tweak something, you remember it. And first of all, this tool is necessary for those who want to change something in their lives.
If you are satisfied with your way of life and are not ready to change something, then, most likely, you should not read it, you will save your time, which we already have very little. But in this case, perhaps among your inner circle there are people who are trying to change their lives for the better or achieve their cherished desires. If so, it is better to give this book to them, I am sure they will thank you many times.
Introduction
Tell me, would you like to achieve your goals? To get what you dream of? To live in comfortable conditions and be a happy person?
I think at least each of us would like to be financially secure and independent. To be a healthy and strong person. And most importantly, to be happy.
If with the desire to be rich there are no questions, the concept of being happy is not so clear.
It is worth noting that not every person understands the meaning of the words “to be happy”. And all the more is able to formulate the meaning of his happiness. And so a person can spend his time on unnecessary activities, mistakenly believing that this very action will make him happy.
But you can easily divide all your goals and desires into categories according to their degree of difficulty of realization. On complex, medium and easy.
As a rule, to achieve complex, global goals, we spend a significant part of our money and time. For example, to get a higher education and become a sought-after specialist. After all, for this we will have to successfully finish high school, pass entrance exams to the right university and, most likely, move to another city.
Since the most popular and reputable universities are located in big cities. This means that you need to save money for renting accommodation and moving. And prepare for a lot of small problems that you will have to face more than once.
And in fact, this complex task turns into a series of medium and small tasks. The solution of which leads to the desired global result.
Another example is learning a foreign language. This is a complex task. And its solution will consist of the fulfillment of a daily small task. Find free time to take a lesson from an online course or visit a language school.
And you can come to the conclusion that any complex task can be solved. To do this, you need to break it down into smaller tasks that you can cope with.
You can also emphasize the point that everything has its price. And the price of realization of this or that goal will be a few basic resources. This is time, money and in some cases your health.
Based on all of the above, we can say that there are no impossible tasks. Everything in this life can be achieved provided that you have time, money and health.
And everything would be great if not for one thing.
The fact is that situations can happen in our lives that can spoil all our plans and destroy our hopes and dreams. These are usually the most painful blows of fate.
You can be expelled from the university when you were in your final year. You may be betrayed by a loved one with whom you were creating a business. You may be fired from a job you love because the company went bankrupt. Your spouse may fall out of love with you and leave you for someone else, taking a significant portion of your assets. Not to mention global problems such as epidemics, disasters, military conflicts, deadly diseases, and many other extremely dangerous events that could happen to you.
All these situations can be divided into two groups.
The first group is situations that we cannot influence.
The second group – situations that we have allowed ourselves and can control.
And if we face the truth, we will see a simple truth: the average person lives 70—90 years. If we take into account school and higher education, the age at which a person begins an independent adult life is from 20 to 22 years old. And it turns out that we have about 50—70 years to enjoy this life. To realize the meaning of life. And to realize our dreams.
Do you think 50 years is a long time? Considering the fact that a person ages over the years and can get seriously ill, that would shorten this period considerably.
And in general, you have to admit that at 60 you are unlikely to become a rock star or win the Olympics. And you will not look as young and beautiful as you did in your 20s. Not to mention your overall health.
Therefore, we need to recognize that we have a short period of time for active actions in life – about 30 years. Between the 20th and 50th years of life. In fact, this is the most productive stage of our life. And our final result will depend on how we live it.
I think after this many people will say that life is very short. And it is not enough time to fully enjoy life, to get to know it better and to achieve some really serious heights.
Perhaps you are right, but I suggest not to grumble at fate. I suggest we take our lives into our own hands. Yes, we may have limited time. But it’s up to us to choose how we live it.
I am convinced that it is possible to live a short life, but one that will not be ashamed to tell about. It will be filled with meaning and all kinds of deeds that would tell about who a person was in reality. But for this you need to work on yourself and your mistakes. Set the right goals, choose the right environment and, most importantly, find your place in this life.
Our common problem is that when we are young, full of strength and energy, we want to prove something to someone and, most importantly, to ourselves. We try to fulfill the expectations of our parents or close people. But while we are young, we do not fully understand the meaning of our actions. Or rather, we think we understand everything. That we will definitely not live our lives in vain. We’ll achieve our goals and become who we want to be. And, unfortunately, while we are on our way to this, we make a lot of mistakes, because of which we find ourselves in difficult situations.
But the question now is not whether it was worth choosing such exaggerated goals at all. It’s about figuring out how to move on. How to achieve your goals and not to live your life in vain.
Someone may live his life without achieving significant results. Some will be hindered by external circumstances, some will be hindered by illness, and some will be hindered by their own laziness.
This book was written to help all those who are ready to change and are willing to take decisive action to change themselves and their lives.
The original (working) title of this book was “The Constructor”.
Because the purpose of this book is to be a tool that you can use to rebuild yourself like a constructor and create the best version of yourself. That will allow you to find the right way to achieve any goal set before you. And you will see the effectiveness of this tool as soon as you finish reading the book.
The main thesis (slogan) of this book is “Create the best version of yourself”.
The main challenge this book addresses is finding the answer to the question: “How to achieve your goals, find meaning, find your destiny and not to live your life in vain?”
The skills you can gain or improve by reading this book are:
1. Managing your time.
2. Strategic planning.
3. Psychoanalysis.
4. Logical thinking.
5. Goal-setting.
My own authoring methodology
In addition to skills, you will receive a unique concept (methodology) of cognition of yourself and the world around us, which I have been developing for 3 years before sharing it with you. This concept is a base on which you will reassemble yourself like a constructor, with the help of which you will be able to control and understand your life as a minimum, as a maximum – it is to manage your life and achieve any goals.
And most importantly, you will understand the world in a different way. Not as you perceive it now. However, I will not get ahead of myself. After reading the book to the end, you will understand everything. Now I can only say that if you are ready to become better, to gain self-confidence and create a strong foundation for your success, this book is for you.
When developing this method, I tried to explain complex things in simple language so that as many people as possible could understand and, most importantly, use this method in their real life.
Chapter 1. Problematics
Before treatment can begin, a diagnosis must be made.
Algorithm of the doctor’s work
In any action, even at first glance seemingly simple, there is a certain meaning hidden. And the one who performs this action has a specific purpose. Therefore, I suggest that you start your acquaintance with the book by exposing the problem that you will be able to fully cope with when you finish reading and assimilating the material.
I will start by trying to select the most common problems that this book will help you solve, so that you can check your problems and decide whether you need to read this book or not.
1. Lack of understanding of the meaning of one’s life.
2. lack of understanding of your purpose.
3. Lack of goals, yet a large number of desires.
4. Procrastination and lack of time.
5. Failed attempts to start a business.
6. Lack of confidence in your abilities.
7. Problems in achieving goals.
8. Lack of motivation for action.
9. Poverty and all that follows from it.
So, I have chosen nine, in my opinion, of the most popular and specific problems that any modern person can have. And as you read this book, you will get information with which it is possible to solve these problems. But for this to really happen, you need to at least want it. And for this desire to be concrete, you need to try to formulate your problems and recognize the fact of their existence. And only after that you will be able to solve them. After all, without seeing your enemy, you will not be able to fight him. But if you can not yet clearly formulate the thought of your problems, it is not a trouble. Everything will happen by itself as you read the book.
As I mentioned in the preface, I have very often had to communicate with people who do not understand what they want and who they want to be in this life. And when, in the course of a friendly conversation about the meaning of existence, I asked them the question: “Why do you live?”, they answered uncertainly and often went through all the various options in their heads. And, as a rule, they would get angry. Apparently, their defense mechanism kicked in and they started asking me questions themselves: “Why do you need this? Are you the smartest?” And things like that.
And when I asked them what they wanted to be, they got even worse, they tried to think of something on the fly or remember their childhood dreams. But as a result, it all came down to the banal, “I want to be rich and do nothing.
Then I tried to help them and asked the following question: “What would you do if you had a lot of money, for example, 100 billion dollars? You would no longer need to work at your job, at least not if the reason for working there was only money.
Here’s what you would do if you didn’t have money problems? What would your day look like? Think about it. Take your time. This is really important. I recommend writing it down somewhere. So you can double-check your beliefs if necessary.
I don’t know what your answer to this question was, but I will say that everyone I asked started to get nervous and couldn’t get their thoughts together, and eventually our conversation ended quickly. Apparently, they thought I was asking them to make fun of them or embarrass them in some way, even though my question had a purely scientific purpose.
In fact, I was only interested in all this because I’ve always had the answers to these questions. I always knew what I needed and who I wanted to be. And I thought that was the case for everyone. But as it turns out, it’s far from it. Which was later the impetus for studying this issue.
Someone says that it’s all about astrology and the location of the stars and planets in the sky at the time of birth, which leave their imprint on the character of a person. Therefore, someone is stubborn and determined, and someone is always doubting and not sure of everything.
However, to understand the character of a person, it is not necessary to turn to the stars, for this there is a science – psychology, which helps us to reveal the concepts of personality and character of a person.
