Happy Kids & Happy Mealtimes: The complete guide to raising contented children

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Happy Kids & Happy Mealtimes: The complete guide to raising contented children
Cathy Glass

Cathy Glass has been a foster carer for over 20 years, caring for over 50 children as well as bringing up three of own.Drawing on years of training and personal experience, Cathy shares many of her tips and ideas on child-rearing, from the effective 3Rs: Request, Repeat and Reassure. She addresses many of the challenges faced by parents whose children suffer from behavioural problems such as autism and ADHD and provides advice on the best techniques in dealing with these issues.She also explains how tasty and nutritious meals can improve well-being, behaviour and overall family life whilst providing quick and easy dishes to serve from simple lentil soup to a hearty toad-in-the-hole.From establishing meal routines to dealing with sibling rivalry Cathy’s clear and expert guide presents all you need to know on how to bring up children in the modern world. An important addition to every family home.

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HAPPY KIDS

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HAPPY MEALTIMES

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Contents

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Title Page (#uf347ea34-45dd-57ee-9b35-4381f9f51438)

Copyright

Introduction: Why?

Happy Kids

Happy Mealtimes for Kids

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Index

About the Publisher

Introduction: Why? (#u305fc363-5a2f-5a51-b666-e5897978f00b)

Why another book on child rearing? The idea came from my readers. After the publication of my fostering memoirs I received thousands of emails from parents and childcare workers around the world. They sent their love and best wishes for the children I had written about, and also praised me for the way I had managed the children’s often very difficult behaviour:

I tried that method and it worked …

What a good idea …

My son used to be very controlling so I handled it as you did and (amazingly) he stopped.

I’d never thought of dealing with my daughter’s tantrums that way before …

I now talk to my children rather than at them.

You should write a book!

Their comments made me realise that the techniques I use for successfully changing children’s unacceptable behaviour were not universally known – indeed far from it. I wasn’t sure I knew what I did, only that it worked. So I began analysing how I approached guiding, disciplining and modifying children’s behaviour, the psychology that lay behind my techniques and why they worked. This book is the result.

As a parent you want the best for your child: you want them to be a happy, self-assured individual who can fit confidently into society.

As a parent you are responsible for making that happen. There will be others involved in forming your child – teachers, siblings, friends, relatives, etc. – who will have some influence on your child, but ultimately your son or daughter will be the product of your parenting, good and bad.

I often feel it is a great pity that, as parents, we are not given training in the job of child rearing. No other profession would unleash an employee on a job without basic training and on-going monitoring, but when we become parents, the baby is put into our arms and, apart from a few words of encouragement from a kindly midwife and weekly trips to the clinic to weigh the baby, we’re left to get on with it. We’re supposed to know what to do, having somehow absorbed along the way the contents of volumes of baby and child-rearing manuals, and the accumulated knowledge of a century of child psychologists. The most important job in the world is left to ‘instinct’, without a single course on the techniques of child rearing. Little wonder we quickly feel inadequate when baby doesn’t do as expected. And why should he? He relies solely on us, and yet we don’t always know what to do.

Unlike parents, as a foster carer I receive regular training in all aspects of child development, including teaching children how to behave correctly. I also have a degree in Education and Psychology. My 3Rs technique is a result of my training, studies and research, and years and years of experience – I’ve had plenty of children to practise on during my fostering career! The 3Rs are Request, Repeat and Reassure. The technique is incredibly easy and successful, and can be applied to all ages.

And of course, so much is now known about the importance of good nutrition in raising healthy and contented children that I have included a part on healthy eating, with simple and easy to follow recipe ideas that the whole family will enjoy.

If you have older children, I suggest you still start at the beginning of this book. Read about the 3Rs in relation to the early years, where I explain the basis of the technique, so that you can see where its roots lie and learn the principles. Once you know these, you can use the 3Rs with children of any age to bring them up to be contented and well behaved.

The 3Rs = success.

Note: the term ‘parent’ as used in this book includes the person who performs that role and is the child’s main care-giver.

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Contents

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ONE: First Years

TWO: Preschool

THREE: More Techniques

FOUR: School

FIVE: Factors Affecting Behaviour

SIX: Difficult Children

SEVEN: Not Your Own

EIGHT: Metamorphosis

NINE: Grown Up

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